I want to go camping

Go camping.

 

What might prevent a person from going?

Not sure how to get a campsite

Worried about other people and/or wildlife

Cost (gear, campsites, other)

What about bathrooms, showers, and other hygiene

Don’t know what to pack

Unsure what a day will be like

 

Getting a site

Online ahead of time  or Walk Up

It’s worthwhile to search online for different sites based on the area and/or type you are looking for, however not all campgrounds have websites or will come up in searches. Asking around for suggestions is a great way to find out good places to go because you can narrow the field to things like “campgrounds for tents that have running water,” or “campgrounds near a lake or river.” Some people prefer campgrounds where people are close together, while others enjoy a more solitary experience.

When you arrive at a campsite, either there may be a window when you drive up or at some you go straight to a site and a ranger will approach you to welcome and check you in. At sites where there is not a window when you drive up, there will be envelopes or little papers to fill out to sign yourself in. With this method, you will put your money in the envelope and turn it into a designated box hear the entrance, and you will put the little card with your information on a post at your site.

Campsite

Backwoods or Backyard Camping

Backwoods camping is located in wilderness that doesn’t have set sites or ways to make reservations. National Parks, regional trails, and areas away from civilization is a good example and comes with its own rules. Always check the area you are traveling ahead of time. There won’t be any rangers to help so plan very carefully and always let someone know where you are planning to go. You will want to pack light because you will be carrying everything you need. Stores that are helpful include REI, Cabella’s, Dick’s Sporting Goods, and other sports stores. There are no bathrooms either.

Backyard camping is one of the easiest to enjoy the outdoors. All the comforts of home are within reach and you don’t need to worry about getting a site or staying in the wilderness. Pop your tent up and insert your sleeping bag. The rest is up to you! 

Concerns relieved

MOST campgrounds have a resident ranger of sorts who is there to keep an eye out for behavior of campers, cleanliness of the site, and wildlife patterns.

“Bear boxes” are at campsites to lock all of your food up – this will keep wildlife away. Be sure to use these!

It is not typical for campers from other sites to approach or interact unless you initiate it (beyond typical manners such as saying “hi” or other greetings). In other words, nobody is going to bother you.

You will get dirty, and it’s ok! It’s actually one of the joys of camping. It’s “clean dirt” meaning it’s different than germs - it has no pathogens.

“Look into nature and you will understand everything better. ~Albert Einstein”
Camping Self Registration with explanatino of how to register.

Paying to camp

Campsites will tell you the cost per night when you search.

Take cash with you (various bills to help with odd charges such as $22).

Campsites you book online will likely have you pay at the time of booking, right there on the website.

Packing lists

Minimalist camping list

Good for one night, people who do not want to do dishes, pack/unpack much, etc.

Minimalist Camping List, tent, tarp, mosquito spray, warm clothes, jacket, swimsuit and towel, cooler, sleeping bag or blankets, overnight bag, water and food, lantern, flashlights

ADDITIONAL GOOD IDEAS

Water – at least a gallon to put out the fire at night and when you leave. You can always refill at a faucet if needed

Wood for the fire (you can buy packs at most grocery stores or gas stations during camping months)

If using this list, bring prepared foods or ones you can make ahead such as bagels, yogurt, sandwiches.

More thorough list

If you plan to stay more than one night, and/or if you want to cook food

All of the above, plus:

Camping stove

Basic utensils (tongs, spatula, large spoon/fork – depends on what you plan to cook)

Plates and eating utensils (can use paper or plastic)

Coffee mugs

Garbage bag of some sort to hang for easy use

Skillet/pot

Citronella candle (to keep bugs away)

Games/books

Paper Towels

Ax or hatchet to chop more wood for your fires

Salt/Pepper

Soap and/or shower wipes

Flip Flops to wear in the shower

Towel

Food and drink ingredients

Don’t forget the marshmallows and skewers!

*You can do an internet search for ideas of foods to make while camping and ingredients/instructions for making them.

Most thorough list

optional items for any length of camping trip for those who enjoy going above and beyond

Inside of a nice tent with fancy pillows

Table Cloth

Mat to wipe feet before entering tent

Centerpiece for table

Cots for under sleeping bags

Shovel

Radio

Hammock


Optional packing list for recreation

Depending on what you enjoy doing while camping, here are ideas of what to bring to get the most out of your trip:

Freshly caught fish being held by child

Ball

Fishing pole

Bike

Raft or flotation devices

Cards

Board Games

Binoculars


If you think you are going to fish, be sure to get a fishing license. They are easy to obtain and usually relatively inexpensive. If you go to a sporting goods store they can help you out with a license and what you will need to go fishing.

Bathrooms, hygiene, and self care

When you search for sites they will tell you if they have showers. If you prefer not to take showers, bring shower wipes.

A typical day of camping

Of course everyone enjoys camping in their own way, a general guideline of what to expect is a little bit nice if like me, you like to know what to expect and what a day might look like.

Typically, upon arrival it takes anywhere from a half hour to a few hours to set up camp. This simply means unloading your vehicle putting things where they go. This is the time to set up the tent so you don’t have to do it in the dark, put items in the bear box (lockable food storage) if you would like, gather wood for your fire, and put items in the tent you’ll need at night.

After set up, most people like to walk around the camp area to see what’s around. This is a fun time to do a miniature hike or exploration of the grounds. If nothing else, find where the water source and restroom (if applicable) can be located.

Man cooking food on a camp stove

After that it’s pretty much play and eat time! This is why people love to camp. If it’s meal time, eat. If you have free time, drive (or walk, or bike) to the nearest water source, play a game, read a book, take a nap, climb a boulder, or just sit and watch nature. The ample time is one of the reasons people enjoy cooking while camping. When there are no other time requirements it’s a little more enjoyable to prepare a meal, enjoy the meal, and clean up afterward. I personally do not enjoy this, but I could watch my dad do it for hours because of how much he enjoys it.

It is wise to start a campfire before the sun sets. It keeps the bugs away, works as a heat and light source, and often is a tool used for cooking. Like setting up the tent, it’s easier to build a fire when there’s still daylight. See ‘how to create and maintain a campfire’ below for more information.





How to build and maintain a campfire

Sitting by the fire, reading a book, enjoying the sights, sounds, and smells.

Most large grocery chains now sell boxes of firewood. It is smart to have it with you in case you can’t find it in nature when you get to the campsite. Also, fire starters can be bought at sports stores or the market that come in a small package and say they will catch fire even in wet, rainy conditions. On cold mornings you will be glad you had these.

Most, in not all, campsites have designated campfire sites (fire pits) so the fire can’t spread past them. Place the fire starters in the fire pit and place small twigs, leaves, and sticks or the small pieces of wood in the box you bought on top of them. Put larger sticks or wood on the small stuff and cross the next layer at right angles over them so that there are always air spaces up through the pile.

Before leaving your campsite to head home it is crucial to make sure the fire is fully out. You will want to douse it in water, stir it up to look for embers, and continue to water until you are sure it is no longer burning. Many uncontrolled fires start because of someone leaving a fire before it was fully out. You can always ask the camp ranger to check before you go.

“Nature knows no indecencies: man invents them. ”
— Mark Twain

Celebrate

While camping is a lot of work in the preparation and set up stages, it is also impossible not to come home with memories that last a lifetime. Whether you are there for 24 hours or a few days, being outside, sitting around a campfire, sleeping in a tent all leave a deep feeling of peace. There are times when I felt a little bit uneasy the whole time camping, but when I got home all I had were fond feelings about the experience. It is extremely hard to explain how it works, but I can’t recommend enough to get out there and give it a try.

AND BE SURE TO TAKE PICTURES!

Take risks, live your life, ask questions, and find your fun!

Flying

Traveling By Plane

Plane flying in a cloudy sky

Good Online Searches Before Flying

“how to make flying easier”

“how to prepare for the security check”

“What do I need to fly”

Sometimes you can search the airports you will be either stopping at or flying to/from and see pictures or maps of them. This might be interesting but is not necessary, as the signs in airports are very clear. Of course some airports are easier than others to navigate.

Purchasing tickets:

It’s wise to look at a few airlines before making a purchase. As soon as you have a plan to travel, you should begin looking at ticket prices. Don’t buy them right away though, prices seem to fluctuate rise and fall so it’s worthwhile to check back a few times to watch for what seems to be a low price.

Most airlines have an app you can download. It’s recommended to do so, as this is a method the airline uses to communicate flight updates such as reminders to print tickets, when to “check in online,”, gate changes, and so forth. At times the apps can be frustrating, but I figure the more ways to sign up to receive information from the airline, the better chance of getting all necessary information.

Boarding Passes

Checkin area at the airport

Starting 24 hours before your flight time, you can go online, sign in, and print your boarding pass. You will need one for each leg of your flight. You can download them to your phone as well for convenience. Another option is to wait until you get to the airport where they’ll give you one when you check in. There will also be kiosks at the airline desks where you can self check if you are comfortable doing so. With a boarding pass you are able to go through the security checkpoint to enter the terminal. You will also use it to show the attendant who allows you to board the plane. The boarding pass will have your row and seat number.

Arrival at the Airport

If you are driving yourself, signs to the parking will direct you to short term (up to 3 days) or long term lots. You will get on a shuttle that will take you to your terminal. It will make several stops to pick up other travelers and will stop at all the different airline drop off points. If the shuttle driver didn’t ask which one you need, either tell him/her or just watch for that airline and get off as close to it as you can.

If someone is driving you to the airport there are signs when you approach the terminal (where you will board the plane) to say “Arrivals’ or “Departures”. Since you already have your ticket you know which airline to go toward at the departures and you can be dropped off right in front of that airline at the curb.

The people that work outside and load/carry luggage work for the airport. They expect a tip (usually $5-$10 is appropriate for one or two people). You really do not need them to help you. Just make your way to check in at your airline.

Checking In

The people working the desks at each airline check in area are very helpful. Sometimes they sound impatient but don’t let that bother you, it isn’t personal. Despite possible impatience, they are very helpful. They will check in your bags (if you are checking them in). This is where they will give you the boarding passes, or you can use the kiosks. If you are not checking a bag, the kiosk is a great option.

Important: If you are able to keep your things to one bag, small enough to meet the airline guidelines for carry-on, you do not need to check in a bag.  You still need to check yourself in though, and get your boarding pass.

Benefits of fitting everything into one bag and carrying it on:

No fee for checking a bag

No risk of luggage being lost or damaged. I personally have peace of mind keeping my stuff with me at all times

You have everything you might need right at your fingertips while you are travelling

No need to wait at baggage claim when you arrive at your destination

Downside of fitting everything into one bag and carrying it on:

You cannot take certain items on an airplane (check security guidelines online)

You’ll have more things to carry through the airport and onto the plane

It might be more difficult to get to critical items easily, including once you are on the plane

*If you decide to check a bag, you can take a smaller bag on the plane as a carry on. If you take small luggage and do not check a bag, I recommend putting a smaller bag inside this small suitcase which you can pull out once you get on the plane and keep it with you at your seat.

Items to take in a carry on

carry On Item Checklist; cell phone, ear buds, sunglasses, wallet, gum, snacks or candy, electroinic device, book magazine, puzzle book pen or pencil, brush/comb

Additional items you might want if you don’t mind a bit more “clutter” in your bag:

List of extra items: lotion, water bottle, wet wipes, tissues, ear plugs, eye drops or glasses, cough drops

Once you have checked in and have your boarding pass in hand, walk toward the terminals. You will go through the security check. Have your identification and boarding pass in your hand.

Safety Screening

You will be required to go through a screening area where you throw out liquids more than 3 ounces, remove all metal from your pockets, cell phones, computers, belts, and shoes. It may be helpful to wear slip on shoes. Backpacks and purses must be scanned as well. Put them in small trays and they will go through an x-ray machine. You may be asked to step forward where a person may pat you to see if you have metal or anything that can be used for a weapon. Although it may be uncomfortable, just take a deep breath and remember it is common practice.

Once through the security check, it’s best to find your gate before going to find food or whatever else you might do to fill the time until your flight. Your boarding pass will tell you what time boarding will begin.

Preparing to Board and Boarding the Plane

Picture of an airport sign that reads All Gates and Baggage Claim

Get to the gate designated on your boarding pass you were given at check in. It is wise to either check at the counter when you arrive at your gate (there should be an employee standing there assisting people) or check the screens that tell departure gates. They tend to get changed and you don’t want to wait at the wrong gate. Your boarding pass should have your row and seat number, and some airlines may have a group number. Wait for your group or category to be announced and proceed to the attendant who scans your boarding pass and you are on your way to the plane

On the Plane

Once you find your seat, you can either place your carry-on bag up above in the ‘overhead compartment’ or under the seat in front of you.

Look through the items in the pocket of the seat in front of you. In either the airline magazine or a pamphlet, you will find a list of drinks and snacks served. Alcoholic beverages and food costs extra money. Soda, coffee, water, tea, and juice are free.

If you do not feel like talking to people near you, simply answer basic questions then open a book or some other activity. If you like to talk to new people, be sure to watch for social signals that they want to talk or not talk and move forward accordingly. If a person asks you questions back, they probably are enjoying talking. If they don’t want to talk, they’ll answer briefly then look away or do one of their activities.

You can put your seat back if you are going to rest by pushing the little button on the inside of the arm of the chair.

Try not to bump the seat in front of you. This includes bringing the tray in front of you which is attached to the person’s seat in front of you, up and down more than necessary.

There are ear bud connectors in most arm chairs. You can plug yours in if you brought some and listen to music or if applicable, watch the tv (depends on the plane and flight length).

Night flights

AKA red-eyes are flights that go through the night hours. If you want to have your light on, be aware of when most are off and turn yours off too. People are trying to sleep. Get everything you need out ahead of time, hopefully you used the restroom before boarding, and if you’re lucky you will fall asleep as well.

Seating Tips In a Nutshell

Because the seating is so close on a plane, here are some tips for dealing with it:

Go to the restroom before boarding to minimize getting out of your seat.

Store your backpack or bag under the seat in front of you instead of in the overhead compartment.

Place items you will most need on top of the bag to reduce effort at getting to them.

Use your digital device with ear buds.

Have a snack handy since airlines have reduced the amount of meals and snacks they supply for free.


Assistance

There’s a button located usually above your seat near your light or in your armrest that will alert an attendant. Use this if you need a pillow, a blanket, or a question answered. They don’t mind you asking for assistance.

Courtesy

The persons next to you may give clues that they are uncomfortable. Here are some of them:

You are next to the window and they keep shading their eyes or looking away from the window. This signals they are sensitive to light or just want to avoid it. They may be reading or trying to go to sleep. You could ask them if it is bothering them or just lower the shade on the window. You are not required to do that, such as when you want to look out the window, but it would be a way to compromise by lowering the shade halfway.

When the flight attendants come by with drinks and snacks, you’ll need to make eye contact to see who they are looking at in your row. Just tell them what you want to drink. They come back to pick up garbage too. It's polite to help pass items to the person by the window if they flight attendant is having trouble reaching them. Know that people will have to reach over you if you are in the aisle or middle seat.

Make sure the people on either side of you have enough arm room. Sharing an armrest isn’t ideal but it’s not that bad either.

Traveler wearing a backpack looking at the screen of flight departures.

Layovers, Changing Planes, and Connecting Flights

When you leave one plane and need to get to a connecting flight, look for a sign board with other departures near where you get off your plane. It will tell you which gate and time of departure for your flight number, usually by looking at the name of the destination city. If it is confusing, ask anyone for help by saying “Excuse me, I can’t find my next flight” and usually they will be glad to assist. Most people are really nice. If they are looking at their phone and don’t respond or look like they are worried they probably are late for a flight and are having trouble of their own so don’t ask that person. It’s important to know that if your next flight is more than 2 hours away, it is too early to see it on most sign boards until it gets closer to boarding, which is 30 minutes before the flight time.

In very large airports, trains take you between different terminals such as A or B or C or D. Look for signs above the intersections to direct you to them.

Baggage Claim

When you disembark you last flight, you proceed to the baggage claim area. A carousel will be carrying everyone’s luggage so when they see it they step forward and take it off the rack. When you get your own, step back out of the way so others can get their bags. There is no need to panic if it’s crowded, as bags will come back around a few times. It’s a good idea to mark your luggage with an identifying item to distinguish it easily and so others will leave it alone. Items could be a short, bright ribbon or yarn tied to the handle, a unique tag on the handle, or even choose a different colored suitcase or bag that will stand out. Whatever the item, make sure it will not come off in transit by being handled roughly many times.

If a person is struggling getting their baggage off the carousel, it’s ok to offer to help.

Transportation

If you do not have someone waiting for you, you will need to get a ride to your destination or hotel. The most common method is a ride share such as taxi, Uber, or Lyft for short rides and if you will not be needing transportation after that. If you will need rides for more than a couple days, want to go sightseeing, or are on vacation, you probably want to rent a car.

Taxis are available at the sidewalk outside the arrival terminal where you get your baggage or there will be signs directing you. If there is more than one, go to the taxi in the very front and tell them where you need to go. They will load your bags for you and it is customary to sit in the back seat, although you can ask to sit in the front seat if you prefer. When you reach your destination, you can pay with a credit card or cash, and it is expected that you tip the driver. A common tip is on average $5.

Ride share options like Uber and Lyft are accessed through an app on your phone.

Renting cars at the airport can be confusing because there are several companies. They should be researched online and reserved from home before getting to the airport.

If you are going to a hotel you may have a hotel shuttle. These can be located using signs in the ground transportation area or you can ask an attendant.

If all of this is overwhelming (it is for me), simply find the help desk near “ground transportation” and a person who works for the airport will assist. Do not accept a ride or assistance from anyone who is not an airline employee.

You made it!

Whether a short of long flight, pat yourself on the back once you make it a destination. Other than extremely experienced travelers, most everybody agrees that air travel can be a bit tiring and somewhat stressful. Grab a bit to eat, and if possible, relax for a bit. You deserve it!

Take risks, live your life, ask questions, and find your fun!

Goals Change Lives

Set Some Goals!

Just do it. Goal setting doesn’t have to be stressful. There’s no right or wrong way to do it. The only way to go wrong is to not do it at all. Goals give us something to look forward to, something to aim for, and a way to focus efforts in our day to day lives.

Ideas

Stumped? Here are a few common goal categories followed by a couple goal ideas, free for the adopting!

But First, What to Avoid

Generally speaking, goals to quit doing something, stop consuming something, or otherwise withholding something do not have long term success. It is easier to reach toward something, to learn to adopt a habit rather than to withhold a habit. Think of a dog being told to sit and wait while a treat is 4 feet in front of them. Even if they are able to wait, all they are thinking about is that treat. Then think of that same dog who sees the treat on the ground but is working on rolling over or fetching a ball. The treat is still there, but rather than simply working on not taking it, the dog is working on something that involves a new action and fulfillment, and is no longer or minimally aware of the tempting treat.

Ideas for Goals

Work Life

New job (if you do this one, be specific and set mini-goals within this big goal such as “fill out application,” and “write new resume”)

Get to know a new person you work with

Arrive to work 5 minutes earlier each day.

Woman working on a laptop with white brick walls behind and art supplies on the desk. She has a long brunette ponytail, dark rimmed glasses, a white t-shirt and a smile.

Recreation

Start a new hobby (ideas include sports, crafts, collecting, and more)

Exercise at least 20 minutes 5 days a week

Spend 1 hour less each day watching television (first figure out about how much you view daily)

A woman and a child crossing the finish line at a fun run.

Education

What major educational step would be next for you? Set a goal.

If you are in an educational institution already, how can you improve? Should you work on being organized? If so, set an actionable goal such as getting a new binder and setting it up with classes, tabs, and so forth.

Increase self-advocacy

Improve attendance

Work on homework for ______minutes each night before doing fun activities

University classroom full of students.

Social Life

Talk to one new person each day, even if it means just asking how their day is going

Join one new online social media forum (twitter is my big goal!)

Develop one friendship more deeply (take an existing friend/acquaintance and think about how to get to know them better)

Ask an elderly neighbor if they need help with anything such as yard work or walking a dog

Interact with neighbors (take them a treat, say hi before going inside, etc.)

Focus on one social skill you’d like to improve. For example, one of mine (I have many) is not interrupting the person I’m talking to. Others might include remembering to ask others questions rather than only talking about yourself, listening more intently so you remember what someone said, or omitting unnecessary details from stories.

Two men and a child playing bingo at a kitchen table.

Self Care

Make that dentist or doctor appointment you’ve been putting off

Get a haircut

Floss twice a day. Ok, maybe at least once if you’re not doing it at all yet (let’s be realistic)

Eat a vegetable at every meal

If you have junk food habits, choose one to improve but be precise for yourself

Red white and blue toothpaste squeezing onto a yellow toothbrush.

Home and Daily Living

Develop a new cleaning routine for your living quarters

Clean out cupboards

Create a budget (and stick to it)

Wash carpets (or) curtains (or) blinds

Organize clothes, donate any you haven’t worn in a year that aren’t special

Purge items you do not need - donate, donate, donate. Throw away unusable items.

Yard work - if you don’t have a yard, maybe help a parent or grandparent

On the left is a portion of a bed with white linens and a plant. On the right is a quote “clear space, clear mind.”

Final Note

At the risk of sounding dramatic, I can honestly say goals saved me from myself in early adulthood. If I didn’t have a goal of becoming a teacher I have no idea where I would be. It made me make healthier choices in order to get to classes, develop social skills required to speak to instructors when needed, organize my life in order to get to work and classes while managing homework, and so much more. You don’t have to know exactly what you want to do with your life, but thinking hard about some things you want either long and/or short term will change your trajectory if you focus on what you want. You are in control of your future and you get to make choices to get out of or into positions you desire.
Start as big or small as you want. Just don’t make the mistake of never starting.

Take risks, live your life, ask questions, and find your fun!

Travel Planning

Taking a little road trip a couple hours away, or flying across the globe, preparing for a vacation can be fun and rewarding. For the free spirit or extreme procedural thinker, there are benefits to planning ahead.

If traveling to Kauai and interested in the bucket list of activities scroll on down to the “Sample Plan” below the bucket list image.

Benefits of Planning Ahead For a Getaway:

Saves the time and hassle of looking up “things to do” or “places to eat near me” while on your vacation

Saves money

You leave vacation feeling like you’ve done what you wanted to do

Increases opportunities. A) some activities require reservations so getting in early improves chances of getting to do what you want when you want to do it and B) if places are closed certain days of the week it’s helpful to know this ahead of time

“Live with no excuses and travel with no regrets. ”
— Oscar Wilde


Get Ready, Get Set To Go


Growing up, my mom was always the one who planned out all of our vacations. She would read books for weeks ahead of time, map out where every place was located and how long each adventure would take in order to maximize our time. We gave her a hard time but now that I’m the one planning, I totally get it! Ok, it’s not my personality nor do I have the focus to put the effort into a vacation that my mom did but I certainly enjoy looking ahead and making lists of what I want to do on vacation. When I am traveling to a place I’ve been before my bucket list is usually more specific and often includes dining experiences. When I’m traveling somewhere new I try to chat with people who are familiar with the destination and record their suggestions. My planning is far less extensive than my mom’s ever was (and still is, she’s traveling more now than ever) but it serves the purpose of making sure I cover the places and experiences I want while visiting new or familiar places.
In trying to take risks, I include at least one “to do” on vacation that stretches my comfort zone. I have never regretted doing something new!

Same bucket list: Hawaiian Vacation Bucket List, Kauai

Sample Plan: Kauai

Wailua River Kayaking is definitely out of my comfort zone, mainly because I’ll have my 3 kids with me and am going to have to put full faith in the guides. Not only will we be kayaking a long way in new territory, there’s a hike and picnic included. It sounds absolutely breathtakingly beautiful and adventurous. At the same time there are many, many opportunities for disaster (ok, not in reality but in my worst case scenario thinking perhaps). Choosing adventure over fear of the unlikely on this one!

Puka Dog - it’s in a cute little Hawaiian shopping center, and the deliciousness of this hot dog is impossible to explain. Kids can share, they’re huge. Make sure to allow enough time to choose from the extensive sauces!

Waimea canyon trail is self-explanatory. A great way to enjoy the beauty of Hawaii, get some exercise, and take some amazing pictures.

Princeville Botanical Garden is a place I would go back to every day if I could. The tour has a very up close and personal style. There’s cacao education and tasting too, can’t beat that.

We heard about Spouting Horn Park last time we visited Kauai. We didn’t have time to go, so I knew this had to be on the list for this time.

Mermaid Cafe is an example of a place we probably wouldn’t have notice or chosen had we not put out a request for suggestions from friends who had visited Kauai before. So glad we did! Their burritos are as unexplainable as the Puka Dog, and the feel is very “local Hawaiian.” It’s a walk-up-and-order sidewalk cafe and there’s something for every type of eater.

Anini Beach is a place we fell in love with on our last visit. We didn’t realize bonfires were allowed until our last day there so we hope to light one up this time! This beach was a reminder why it's beneficial to simply explore once in a while. We never would have found it in an internet search, yet it stole our hearts (and almost one of our kids’ permanent teeth in a body surfing fail).

Luau…because, well, Hawaii! This one we’re going to hold off on choosing and see what pops up when we get there. So we're not sure the specifics, but it’s on my list so I can plan accordingly when packing and managing time.

Preparation

Once you have an idea of what you want to do on your vacation, you can pack accordingly. While leaving room for spontaneity (living in the moment or doing something unplanned) is fun, when you plan ahead you can be prepared. For example, knowing I want to go on a kayaking tours means I head to Hawaii prepared with my athletic water shoes. Since I try to pack as little as possible on vacation due to my minimalist tendencies it’s nice to be able to pack precisely if I know what I’ll be doing, such as knowing I only need one dress for a luau. For tips on luggage allowances, check out any airline website. There are also packing ideas galore on Pinterest.

Start Planning

Where do you want to go? If you already have a trip planned, make a bucket list if you don’t have something planned, think of where you want to go and start saving and planning!

Choose a place

Find a place to stay and book

Figure out transportation and lock it in

Bucket List! Including links to the places you find is really helpful later.

Picture of a person jumping in the air on a path between trees and headed toward water with quote, “in twenty years you’ll be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. By Mark Twain

Take risks, live your life, ask questions, and find your fun!

How to Navigate a Job Interview

Getting the Job You Want

Disclaimer: The author (me) does not claim to be a job coach, life coach, or anything coach (well, except Girls on the Run).

However, the author (still me) has also sat in many interviews, on both sides of the table. Additionally, the author has facilitated mock interviews with high school students. There seem to be consistent areas across the board where people feel unsure or uneasy. There are also consistent patterns of interviews worth explaining to interviewees so they can focus on duties of a job rather than how to get through an interview.

P.S. (pre-script): I personally believe the interview process is antiquated (outdated, old) and will hopefully be replaced by something more practical in the near future such as observations or try-outs for jobs.


Pave your own path to the job you want.

Start by telling yourself you are the most qualified person for the job. Then try to believe it.


Getting an Interview

Send an email to whoever’s name is listed as a contact person for a job when you submit your application, or click ‘apply’ if using a website. The email can simply tell the employer how much you would like the chance to have an interview because you would love to work for their company.

If possible, go to the place of employment in person to deliver your application, especially if most people are simply attaching it to a website. When people see you, they remember you, and you immediately stand out to them, But be sure to dress professionally when you go in or it can backfire!

Research the company a little bit ahead of time. This way, if something stands out or is important to them, you can build it into your answers. For example, if their slogan is “we care about customers,” when they ask what you can bring to the company, you can say “I will always work to make sure customers are satisfied with their service.”

The Interview

Wear: nice clothes and shoes

Brush: hair and teeth

Bring: pen and paper

Leave your phone somewhere out of sight and turn it off, not just on vibrate.

Be. On. Time. (Which means 10 minutes early) This gives you time to relax, possibly fill out papers if they have any for you, and who knows - maybe they'll give you questions to review?!

What to Expect

Setting

If they are a few minutes late starting your interview, this is nothing to worry about. Often times a committee is finishing a conversation about an interview before you, or chatting about how they are going to take turns asking questions. They have a little “work” to do in the interview process as well.

Sometimes you will be with one interviewer, sometimes it will be a committee. If it’s one on one, you may sit across from someone at their desk. If it’s a group, you might be at a table or crammed into an office - I’ve seen it all. If more than one person interviews you, you will probably be sitting facing them.

Be yourself, be truthful and comfortable with your answers. Reflect the emotions of the interviewers. If they are smiling, you smile. If they are serious, don’t make jokes or flip statements. It is permissible to appear nervous as interviews are very important, and they know you are probably nervous anyway.

Questions

If it is an hourly job, the questions will likely be linked to specific job duties. Any questions that you do not already know, you can say you are a quick learner or that you’ve wanted to learn how to do (said skill) anyway.

If it is a career type job, you will have some job specific questions as well and will probably need to know the answers. Typically if you are qualified for a job, it is not a problem answering these questions.

The good news is most interview questions do not have one specific correct answer. Rather, committees are looking at your ability to explain, relate, and generally speak to topics.

Process

When you enter the interview room, smile. Thank them for taking the time for your interview.

Answer questions without rambling. Think of your key point of an answer and elaborate only on that point. Make your answers long enough to cover the topic, but short enough to be interesting. Listing every example you can think of is not necessary, might bore the interviewers, and will create an awkward conversational environment. You can search sample interview questions, although they are often generic in search findings, so keep that in mind. Searching a specific job aeea may bring back more specific search results in regards to question samples. Click below to see sample questions thanks to monster.com

If there’s a question you aren’t sure of an answer for, just say something like “that is new to me but I am happy to learn about it,” or “I can’t think of something off the top of my head, can you give me an example?” Nobody expects you to know everything.

When you leave, smile and thank them again for the interview. Notice if someone reaches out to shake your hand and respond by shaking theirs. It’s an added bonus to look them in the eyes as you do, even briefly.

If you are able to access emails of those who were on the interview, thank them for their time and for the interview. At the least you probably have access to the person who contacted you for the interview so you can just email them to thank them for the opportunity.

The Waiting Game


Sometimes the committee will tell you how long until they make a decision about who they will hire for the position. When they call, if you are not selected, it is fair to ask “is there anything specific I can work on for my next interview?” It is also fair to simply thank them for the interview. If you are selected be sure to ask when you will begin, what you need to wear, and if there is anything you need to know or do before your first day. You will have at least a day, usually a few days of training so you do not need to know every detail (trust that what they tell you will be sufficient for a successful first day).

Remember! Every interview is practice for future interviews. There is no such thing as a failed interview. There are only lessons learned for the next one(s).

Take risks, live your life, ask questions, and find your fun!

Thanksgiving Dinner Prep

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A Stress-Free Guide to Preparing Thanksgiving Dinner

I love the way Thanksgiving feels. I love the beautiful fall colors, being with loved ones, reminders of all that we have to be thankful for, and the completeness of Thanksgiving dinner. Thanksgiving dinner is about more than an abundance of decadent comfort foods. It is about taking the time to sit and visit, to enjoy a meal we get once a year, and to slow things down for a bit. Unfortunately for the cook, the time leading up to the meal includes rushing to get everything done, hoping everything will come together, and working through a giant mess in the kitchen, While I enjoy cooking, I often dream up an experience much different than what actually takes place. In large part this is due to my inability to mentally organize all of the tasks needed to ‘make it happen.’ I had a moment of clarity when I realized what I need is a timeline. It isn’t making the dishes that is taxing, it’s timing all of it. Once I started making a timeline, I thought, why not add a menu and shopping list so the timing chart will work? And the best part is, I was able to find some incredible healthy recipes to build my Thanksgiving dinner!

The link below “Guide for the Chef” offers a delicious Thanksgiving dinner menu with a shopping list and timing guide included! I’m a little biased, but each dish is DELISH. You may want to add your own twist (e.g., gravy types are personal…) but I will definitely be using this for the meal I’m prepping this year!

For some great ideas for family traditions and table decorating check out our Pinterest page in the “thanksgiving” board!

Click “Guide for the Chef” below to view the guide!

Driving

Let’s Drive

Where Do We Start?

Thanks to online search engines, the actual steps to obtaining a driver’s license are fairly easy to locate and follow.

THIS POST however, intends to support some of the less obvious “to do” items along the way.

  • Everyone is nervous. If you wait until you do not feel nervous, you probably will never drive.

  • Ask questions along the way. Everyone does.

  • Practice, practice, practice

Roadblocks

·       The Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV)…

·       Fear of failure of steps along the way to obtain the license

·       I don’t know how to take care of a vehicle

·       I can’t afford a car anyway, why bother

·       It’s hard to know what I would need once I get a license

·       Nuances of hitting the road

·       What if I get pulled over?

DMV and Fear

Good news! Everyone fails along the way when getting a driver’s license. OK, not the best news. But rest assured it is very normal to have to take either the written or performance test more than once. The performance test should be a little easier, as long as you have practiced until you feel very comfortable.

Use the supports!

1.     Go online and look for tips

2.     Take a pamphlet from the DMV to use to study the rules of the road

3.     Let the proctor of the testing room and/or the performance test judge know if you have any needs they should be aware of. For example, a people who perform better when speaking out loud to themselves should tell evaluators that ahead of time, just to make everyone more comfortable.

4. Be sure to prepare for any tests or procedures. If you are prepared you will be fine! If you do not study, practice, or read what you need to bring you might be setting yourself up for a wasted trip. It happens to people all the time so it’s nothing to worry about but your chances of success increase substantially if you prepare.

Passes the written test, backs into parked car in DMV parking lot with picture of boy with a goofy grin

Vehicle Care

Getting Gas

Don’t wait until the tank is empty. This can land you in a stressful situation if you run out.*

Recommendation: find a gas station you like and go there as often as possible (when you need gas of course). This helps with familiarity, predictability, and so forth. It may not sound like a big deal, but finding one that is not busy very often can prevent a great deal of future stress.

It really isn’t difficult. Know which side your tank is on, how to open it, and bring a debit card or cash. What gets stressful is when you pull up and the place is busy. In this case, simply find other cars facing the same direction as you, and line up behind them. When they are finished, you just pull up. Trying to maneuver into the one open space often is not worth it because too many cars are going in different directions and you may find yourself facing or in the way of someone less patient than we hope for.

*If you do run out of gas, pull to the side of the road. Most likely you have cell phone and can call for roadside service (either someone you know, someone you subscribe with such as your insurance provider, or someone you find on an internet search). Whether you have a cell phone or not, another option is to walk to the nearest gas station and fill a portable gas can. Just unscrew the top/nozzle and pump it straight from the gas tank into the can. That may sound self-explanatory, but I thought I’d save you the time I once wasted trying to pump gas in through the actual nozzle (it wasn’t a fun experience and I wasted a lot of gas…and time!). You can pour this can directly into your car.

Oil Change

Stick to the time and mileage guidelines for when you need to take your vehicle in for an oil change. It’s great to find a place you like and return there each time. This prevents someone trying to convince you of things you don’t really need to do. For example, sometimes you will need things updated, such as an air filter. If you go to the same place each time, they will have your records of when you have had such updates.

Cost

Yep, being a driver of a personal vehicle can be costly. But there are ways to drive on a budget.

Buy used. If you know someone who knows about cars, it’s wise to take them car shopping with you either in person or on the internet.

Remember to include registration and insurance in your yearly budget. This way when it comes time to pay them, you have the money.

Don’t drive unless you need to get somewhere.

  • Save on gas

  • Less wear and tear on the car = less money spent on repairs and upkeep

  • Few miles = fewer trips to get oil changes

Buying a car

The search.

At a dealership, someone will approach you as you walk in. It’s best to have a strong idea of what you are looking for in a vehicle otherwise they will try to sell you something you don’t need and/or will attempt to sell unnecessary luxuries. Be clear with what you want to spend. They will always, and I mean always try to stretch past what you say you can pay. Be prepared to spend time.

Looking online, follow similar guidelines as above with a few tweaks. Don’t be too picky, if you see a good deal it’s worth trying out a vehicle. Ask to drive it before purchasing. Take someone with you to meet up with the seller. Let them know you won’t be bringing cash for this visit (safety).

Smaller cars

  • Use less gas

  • Usually cost less to register

  • Cost less to insure

  • Parts (including tires) are usually cheaper

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Choose wisely

See text for tips on choosing a car.

Needs of a Driver

ALWAYS carry your license with you, your registration, and insurance. Most people keep the last two either in the glove box (if it’s not full of random stuff), or in a little folder that can go in a door pocket, center console, or anywhere it will be kept safe.

A user manual for the vehicle. Yes, we can pull most things up online – but what happens if there is no service or a phone battery dies? Safe keeping = wise to keep this in the same place as your insurance and registration.

You can get a durable folder type thing online for very low cost. I recommend this method of safe storage of these important items.

In the trunk:

  • First aid kit, including a warm blanket

  • Spare tire

Hitting the Road

Don’t Panic! Since the road is occupied by humans, as with anything you will notice there are all types of people and all types of drivers.

  • Aggressive

  • Timid

  • In a hurry

  • Cautious

  • Impatient/competitive

  • Friendly

The list could go on forever. It’s helpful to remember this when driving. You’ll want to be yourself, while making sure to follow driving laws and being a kind person (a friendly wave should be the only hand gesture used in a car!).

Situations

If someone:

Honks at you
Don’t panic. They are either alerting you, or are just an angry or hurried person so don’t even bother looking their way. Either respond accordingly with your car (often it’s in a parking lot or a place cars are moving in different directions, so stopping to make sure you’re not about to hit someone/something is the correct response), or go about your business and be as courteous as possible.

Waves you on at an intersection
Make your move, they are letting you go.

Turns on their blinker in a parking lot
They are waiting for a spot, it’s like a way of “claiming” a spot where a person is pulling out

Is about to merge into you, back into you, or hit your car for some other reason
Give a little honk to alert them, or if able respond accordingly by getting out of the way

Cuts in front of you in their car
It’s up to you, but I recommend simply backing off. If you aren’t going to bump into them with your car, it’s not really worth it to honk. This just starts an altercation.  

Getting Pulled Over by the Police

If you notice a police officer’s lights on behind you, slowly pull to the right of the road. Of course, this part is hopefully obvious once you’ve passed a driving test.  

 Once you’ve pulled over:

  • Roll down your passenger side window if possible, as this is likely where they will approach your vehicle.

  • Have your license, registration, and insurance available to present to the officer.

  • If you feel fit to do so or have reason to do so, it doesn’t hurt to let them know if you have a behavior or circumstance you feel they might want to know about. For example, if you think you may engage in stim behavior, mentioning this will help them understand. Remember, they are people too and most people can be startled by unexpected movements or vocalizations until they are made aware of the reasoning.

  • Be polite!

  • Wait while they go back to their vehicle, and don’t panic. Most people will get at least one ticket in their lifetime, it’s not something to be terribly upset by.

  • They will come back to your car, let you know if you are getting a ticket, a warning, etc. If you have any questions, be sure to ask – it’s ok to clarify to make sure you know what to do next.

  • Once they have left your car after saying what your consequence will be, you are free to slowly drive away.

Remember that everyone was a new driver at one point in their life and the more you do it, the easier it will get. Enjoy your new freedom and search out new things to do and see now that you can get more places.

Take risks, live your life, ask questions, and find your fun!